It was a spellbound moment
for Mahima when her 4 year old kid uttered magical words difficult for her to
believe!!! Yes, what can be more fascinating than a bunch of words from a
little creature that has just started to observe this world, develop its own
perceptions and integrate sustenance. Mahima who was trying to explain her
Family members how the long scarf that she wore got caught in the wheels of the
bike during her travel through the office campus ,was taken aback when she
heard a little voice from a long distance asking,
Leave about the cycle, What
happened to you ?you got hurt?.
Surprising thing was that the
child was busy doing something with its play items. While she was just
explaining about the travel,wheels,cycles, vis-à-vis all material things and
nothing about her, the point that the child focused on made her think about its
emotional mould. The mom could obviously not resist her tears the moment she
unexpectedly heard this.Even though that was a very simple gesture, she felt
like should could die that very moment. Not in the absolute sense, of course,
just that she wanted the moment to turn eternal !
Believe you agree these are
magical words indeed considering the age and the amount of care! The best thing
was that the child was again back to its regular set of activities without even
showing a glimpse of utterance. Mischief back on track :)
Keeping the sentiments apart,
the incident brought to light two things.First, the children observe each and
every action of ours.Second and the most important, their mode of thinking, the
kind of perceptions they develop through each situation that goes a long way in
ensuring emotional stability !Integrating emotional stability should be the
prime Focus of Parents starting as early as toddler stage through their early
teens , the proper development of which will take care of them for the rest of
their life.!
On the other day, when I was
talking to another parent during a school day function, I could apparently
sense her anxiety about her kid not verbose like the others. I was suddenly prompted
to ask her nativity to check if the same language is spoken both at home and
outside for which her answer was in negative. Understandably, this has nothing
to do with the child’s learning capabilities and is just a matter of
habituation to surroundings that is bound to take time. Hearing this, the
parent’s face lit up as she had presumed it to be the child’s learning
capacity. Stuffing such a kind of notion in the child will put a lot of
emotional stress on the child making it feel worthless hampering its growth to
a larger extent.
I feel noteworthy mentioning
a few points here that many parents may already be aware of , but just to serve
as reminder to promote better empathy,
1. Each and every child is
unique. Do not indulge in comparison thereby spoiling individuality.
2. Learn to make children
focus more on contribution
than competition in any
field they choose. Competition may ,of course, provide short term success but
adaptation to contribution can promote enduring satisfaction and peace of mind
that proves vital for health as a whole. In addition, concentrating on
competition alone will cause more rivalries, disturbing ultimate Harmony.
Contribution will rather provide a Win-Win situation.These kids can make the
environment around them more amicable.
3. Use your affluence in the
right way. With the parents now more capable of getting everything the child
asks, more responsibility in choosing the right things becomes quintessential
to make sure that they don’t possess ‘have it all’ and ‘know it all’ attitude
that cultivates an imperious temperament parting them from the rest of the
society.
4. Pay heed to each and every
correspondence of the kid. It might hold great relevance no matter how simple
it sounds to be. This will prove helpful in developing good rapport with them
which goes a long way in promoting friendship and peaceful co-existance.
Ignoring the correspondence considering it petty may prove costly in two ways
emotionally.Either the child becomes insecure in expressing their thoughts
outside for the fear of disapproval or the child becomes contemptuous to carry
out things on their own terms.
Building prospective people for
the society is surely no small deed. We need subtle ways to make sure that we
set the right path for them to explore.
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